Him: So how come you don't have a boyfriend?
Her: (I almost choke on my food at the unexpected question) umm... where did that come from, I thought we were going for small, uncomplicated conversation.
Him: it's a simple enough question.
Her: that may not have a simple answer.
Him: I am sure you can simplify it enough.
Her: Can I just choose not to answer?
Him: yes, but that doesn't mean I wont ask again, some other time.
Her: well, I could come up with a million and one excuses.
Him: how about the truth instead.
Her: I don't know. I guess, I haven't been looking and no one seems to have wanted it enough for me to even consider it.
Him: I would think that someone like you would have men lining up to date you.
Her: someone like me?
Him: smart, gorgeous, sexy, fun...
Her: you're going to make me blush.
Him: just stating simple facts.
Her: no line of men. not before, not now, not ever.
Him: you should go to Europe, there you would be a huge thing.
Her: I would have to travel across the world just to get noticed?
Him: you get noticed here, but that is not what I meant.
Her: I once asked a friend of mine why it was so difficult for me, he said I intimidated men.
Him: I can see that happening.
Her: not you too!
Him: no really! I can see it happening.
Her: how?
Him: you are the type of woman who can fend for herself, you're beautiful, your head is not full of dumb things, meaning that a man would actually have to know something about anything to be able to talk to you, and you are not shallow, so a guy cannot come up to you and flash his immense riches, or fun toys and impress you.
Her: I thought that would be a good thing.
Him: it is, just that not everyone can see that. You add to any insecurity a guy may have.
Her: I what?!
Him: most guys, when in front of a woman like you, strong and independent, a woman that knows what she wants and can get it, start thinking less of themselves, they start with "If I go and talk to her will she turn me down?" "Will she even look at me?" "Am I her type?" "Would I be able to offer her anything?" "Would I be enough?" and a whole other bunch of things.
Her: Those things actually go through your mind?
Him: you'd be surprised!
Her: you don't seem to have that problem.
Him: I hide it pretty well, but I will confess that if you had not spoken to me first, I probably would have never even attempted to approach you, no matter how much I wanted to.
Her: What!!!!
Him: have you seen yourself?!
Her: I am not some kind of mythical creature!!!
Him: you are not exactly common either. You walk like you own the world, and you probably could, if you wanted to.
Her: I walk like that to hide my insecurity! Walk tall, firm step, don't let the world see your pain kind of stuff. I...
Him: well, it works. The looks, the walk, the brain, overkill.
Her: you are making me blush again.
Him: sorry
Her: I never thought guys were that insecure, I thought they were just not interested.
Him: we have perfected the "I don't care" face, saves us from a lot of embarrassing moments. Besides, if we make you guys think we are not interested, we avoid being rejected.
Her: Wao!, men have issues.
Him: as many as women.
Her: Did you overcome them, then?
Him: I learned how to deal with them. I risk it every once in while.
Her: I wish more men would. If they don't risk it, they will never gain anything.
Him: yeah, well, it takes time.
